You May Not Know These 5 Things Are Pushing Him Away

You love him so much. Why does he push you away?

As the closest person to him, you’re more familiar with his flaws and shortcomings. It’s understandable that you want to make your husband better and help him live up to his potential. But instead of pulling him closer, you may be creating distance.

The more you help the more distant he becomes.

Sometimes when you try to “help” him, you actually push him away.

Many times I’ve tried to “help” my husband. The harder I tried to “help” him, the worse he got.

Sometimes he’d get irritated, and we’d end up in a fight.

I was frustrated. I only wanted to help him be more efficient or smarter.

He didn’t want my help

He saw my “help” as micromanaging and criticizing.

When I tried to tell him how to do things or told him how other people did things, he felt I was saying he was inadequate or incapable.

So instead of building him up, I was tearing him down.

“Helping” is just one way you can push your husband away. Here are five other ways you may be pushing him away without even knowing it:

1. Comparing him to other men in (not in a good way). No man likes being compared negatively to another man, especially by his wife.
2. Taking over. You take over conversations, speak for him and intervene on his behalf when you don’t think he’s doing a great job speaking up for himself.
3. Saying “I knew you couldn’t do it.” Hearing this from his wife hurts, like a kick in the crotch. The worst part about it is he feels like he can’t even defend himself because he feels like he’s already failed in your eyes.
4. Focusing on his flaws. Everyone falls short in some way or another. When it’s necessary to talk about his flaws, talk in private and be gentle. Talking about his weaknesses in front of others might anger him and make him withdraw from you emotionally.
5. Criticizing him. No one likes to be criticized. Constant criticism makes him feel like he can’t do anything right so he may stop trying.

Boost his morale and make him feel good about himself by being respectful and telling him you’re grateful.

Asking him to do something then telling him how to do it, makes him feel disrespected. When you ask him to do something, let him do it. Then thank him.

When he feels respected and knows he can make you happy, he’ll be a happier husband. He’ll move closer to you instead of moving away.

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