If you’ve noticed I try not to talk about the Duggar family much any longer. We don’t watch ‘Counting On’ on TLC, or the multitude of weddings and births. We don’t even comment on the tacky Instagram or Twitter posts, or the MLM clothing posts the sisters make. Mostly what things we try to discuss here are legitimate things, like Michelle Duggar promoting LGBTQ hatred in her robocalls. Or Josh’s various sexual crimes. The usage of the Pearls ‘Blanket training’ of the children. But today’s bashing I am seeing over Mary Duggar’s funeral leads me to wonder this: what is worthy of criticism in the Duggar’s world.

So what are people saying about Mary Duggar’s funeral? There seem to be two distinctly different camps in Duggar-ire. The first bunch of folks are outraged that scandal-ridden Josh Duggar was one of the speakers at the funeral and that he was one of the pall bearers carrying the casket.

The other group are upset that Jill Duggar Dillard took photos at the funeral, posted them online and posted descriptions with tacky little emojis illustrating everything.

I love how this British tabloid article describes Josh Duggar as a ‘Sex Pest’ even if he’s been behaving as far as we know for quite a while now.

Last week when family matriarch Mary Duggar tragically drown in her swimming pool various Duggars posts all sorts of things, from sweet to silly to downright tacky. This set the stage for the funeral ire.

Look, I get it! Jill Duggar Dillard’s posts seemed more like something posted by a 12 year old pre-teen popping her Bubble Yum and live Tweeting the funeral. You have to consider that she might be 28 years old, but the fact that the Duggars infantilize their children is playing out in her tackier behaviors. Hate that, hate what her parents have done to her that creates all this silly stuff.

I have to say I am extremely puzzled by the people hating on Josh Duggar for being a pall bearer. This is his grandmother. It’s entirely understandable that he would be involved in the service. Having relations with adult film stars and cheating on one’s wife does not preclude one from grieving, or casket carrying. Again, be angry with the fact that his parents covered up his crimes, excused all of his bad behavior, not that he participated in a beloved relatives funeral.

There are plenty of real things to be upset about in the Duggar family. How they grieve is not one of them. Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar deserve the scorn. They are the ones that enforced the toxic rules of Bill Gothard, covered Josh’s crimes up, reused to allow their children normal lives and development, beat their children, used their children for money and publicity and a million other things that make up the awful reality of Quiverfull.

While we stand against everything that Quiverfull involves, this hatred of the things many Southern families do, acting tacky at funerals, pall bearing, speaking, is not worthy of hate, or even concern. We save our fights at NLQ for real issues.

Oh, the tales I could tell of wacky family funerals I have attended in the Deep South.

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