Is phone sex OK?

My husband is out of town. We have a very healthy and active sex life and we want to know how to stay bonded in that way while he is gone. Is phone sex okay? We have never touched ourselves and want to know what mutual masturbation is and if it is considered unholy and impure? (We want to visualize each other and hear each other speak and masturbate to each other).

Yes, phone sex is okay! I have written on long-distance sex before and qualify it under the doctrinal guidance that the sex life of a husband and a wife are up to that husband and wife. If you are both comfortable and safe exploring this venue – go for it and have fun! The sexual relations between a husband and wife are anything but unholy and impure. Your sex life is meant to draw you close together in ways that will forge and increase your emotional bond. Phone sex is just one of many ways that a couple can be intimate.
I wrote a previous post on mutual masturbation that delineates some questions that a couple can use to help them decide whether or not their sexual life is not venturing into the unholy or impure.

All of the methods you mention above are part of mutual masturbation. You may also want to consider a vibrator, a dildo or lubricants for added pleasure. You can find such items at Simply Sweet Marriage, where you won’t run into distasteful product. The difference between a dildo and a vibrator is that a dildo has an object in the shape of an erect penis. Most dildos will also vibrate.

If you’ve never masturbated before, you may not completely know how to go about it. Women usually will need stimulation to their clitoris and will do this either manually or by rubbing up against something. Some women find it difficult to climax without penetration, which is where a dildo can be useful. I’m including an article at the bottom that is tasteful and can offer you some more information.

You may find that you enjoy this type of sexual play so much that you may incorporate it into your sex life even when you’re not physically away from each other.

How to Masturbate – A Guide for Women