Ever noticed that many of our beliefs are 180 degrees opposite of spiritual truths? Here are three truths that can help you find more happiness and success, starting today.

1. If you want something, give it away. We think that if we give something away, we no longer have it. But the act of giving reinforces in our mind who we are as spiritual beings, meaning that we’re giving a gift to ourselves as well.
If you want peace, give it. If you want kindness, offer it to others. If you want respect, see it in everyone you meet. You’ll be amazed at how quickly this can shift your experience of yourself and the world.
2. If you defend yourself, you are attacked. Ever watched someone practice Tai Chi? The movements are slow, fluid, and graceful…not what you’d expect for a martial art. With other martial arts, you defend and attack. With Tai Chi, you let energy move through and around you so there is no attack, no opposing force.
Now think about your mind that way. Are you unconsciously braced for battle, expecting criticism or negativity at home or work? If you set up a stance of defense in your mind, you will draw attack. Instead, imagine your mind like those fluid Tai Chi movements—neutral, calm, and flowing rather than engaging in battle.
3. Fulfilling your purpose is an inside job. We often look to a job or career path—something outside ourselves—as our purpose. But when it comes right down to it, we all share the same purpose: to extend love into the world. That can happen in all its forms, including kindness, compassion, joy, creativity, and peace. To find the form of that purpose that’s right for you means asking yourself…
- What brings me joy?
- What draws on my unique creativity?
- What feels like kindness and compassion to me?
- How can I create peace in my corner of the world?
To help you find the answers, try this: Stand tall, quiet your mind, and put your hands out as though you’re about to receive a gift. Then close your eyes, focus inward, and say, “I am ___________________.” Listen to the answer. You may have to keep repeating the statement until you get to the quiet mind, the connection with Spirit that’s eager to help you remember the highest expression of who you are.
Debra Engle is the author of The Only Little Prayer You Need. You can find her on Facebook and at debraengle.com.