Is Oral Sex a Sin?

3. It is happening exclusively in marriage (Hebrews 13:4).

Any sex (including oral sex) outside of marriage is a sin. Oral sex shouldn’t be seen as a justifiable “substitute” for intercourse for couples who aren’t married. In the New Testament, we’re giving the high standard of not allowing “even a hint of sexual immorality” (Ephesians 5:3). Make sure you’re protecting your purity and the purity of others outside of marriage and you’re honoring your spouse inside the marriage.

I believe oral sex can be a beautiful and pleasurable way to bring more intimacy, pleasure and connection within your marriage. If it’s not happening in your marriage and you’d like it to, talk about it with your spouse. Don’t pressure them. Just express your desire and ask if they’d be open to it. If they’re not comfortable about it, talk about the reasons why. Better communication leads to better sex (and improvements outside the bedroom too). Above all else, honor each other.

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