Building Cathedrals
For the last couple of years, I’ve taken a hiatus from matchmaking. My success rate was a perfect 0%. Demoralizing.
I’ve always been a romantic, easily carried away by all things eros, guilty of losing hours and hours of time and energy in daydreams. Even before Prince Charming won my heart, I was one of those slap-happy busybodies at the co-ed get-togethers dropping (not discreet) hints about who might be interested in whom, “pretty cute, hmm”, “aha, well I’ll leave you two alone to talk a bit more”. You know.
My zeal is my downfall, and the end of any chance I might have at matchmaking success. I get so invested in matches, and so excited when the time comes, that I spoil the novelty and discovery for the prospective couple.
Well, I’m back in the game and requesting your mature, level-headed advice. My friend (also married with kids) and I have cooked up a mixer for next weekend where we plan to introduce a few accomplished, attractive Christian singles to one another in the city.
What’s a foolish matchmaker to do?
How do we set the tone for a relaxed, natural evening of introductions? I’m serious… types of foods? Comfort food? Fancy? Dinner? Heavy hors d’oeuvres? Best kinds of drinks? Any particular games or types of music? Christian-fellowship-style ice breakers like Mafia and Charades, while passing around Pixy Stix to keep everyone totally hyper? Martinis, a disco ball, and a bubble machine? (Kidding about those last two.) How do I get out of the way but without leaving them hanging? Do I follow up after it’s over or leave it alone?
I ask for future reference as well, because there are always singles on our radar screen whom we’d like to introduce… Maybe I should just stick to praying for them.
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