Dear Shaunti:
I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared me. You explained how men can’t not notice a woman with a good figure, but that many men try to look away so they don’t start lusting after every hot chick they see. Since I read that, whenever we’re walking around in public, I’ve been much more aware of what is “out there.” And now I realize there are provocative images everywhere. I can actually tell my husband is trying to fight the urge to look. You say guys have a mental Rolodex of images they’ve seen, so now I’m also worrying what my husband is really thinking about when we’re intimate.
There’s got to be something I can do to help him, and to help me not freak out about this, but I don’t know what. I don’t want to be paranoid. Help me, before I insist on our family moving to an Amish homestead.
-Worried Wife
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