Rarity is Precious

Rare treasures are valued worldwide.

Diamonds are really just pretty rocks that come out of the ground.  They are prized more than other equally stunning rocks because they are incredibly scarce.

Elite athletes do a great deal less for society than teachers, but they are celebrated because they possess a talent far more uncommon (but not more valuable) than the ability to teach a child to read.

Growing a life inside a woman’s body is infinitely more miraculous than making millions of dollars, but the millionaire garners great attention because she’s uncommon and her wealth gives her access to even more rare things.

We love limited works of art, one of a kind items and special moments that only we get to enjoy.  Rare things and experiences make us feel special and privileged.

When it comes to relationships, I am continuously baffled by people who forget this.  They jump into bed with a new interest on Friday, think they’re in love on Monday and start dreaming of a lifetime together only to find themselves sitting at home Thursday wondering why the person isn’t calling anymore.

Much of society has rebelled against or done away with religious and gender based admonitions against premarital and/or promiscuous sex.  There is a sense that prohibitions against commitment free sex are baseless rules aimed at controlling people and dominating women.  The reason to refrain from casual sex isn’t religious or moral righteousness.

Having casual sex dramatically diminishes the likelihood of a long term monogamous relationship.

People want a love they can cherish, count on and feel special about.  Having sex before a solid relationship develops is no more special than mating farm animals.  It sends a message: “This isn’t a big deal to me, I do this with everyone I like.”

Some people will partake and enjoy causal sexual relationships, but when it comes time to picking a life partner the easy mark won’t be in the running.  They’ll search for the one who refuses to engage in such important behavior without a serious relationship.

They’ll go for the rare find.

~ Cynthia