Enough Already with the “Thoughts and Prayers.” They aren’t working.

Enough Already with the “Thoughts and Prayers.” They aren’t working. March 23, 2021

So here we are again. Mass shootings in Atlanta and Boulder in the last week, just the latest in a tragically endless string of carnage from gun violence that, unfortunately, is unique to our nation. A little over four years ago, I wrote the following essay after a mass shooting (there have been so many that I have forgetten which one); two years later, after another mass killing, I reposted it. Sadly, things have not changedโ€“here it is again.

Yesterday I posted the following on Facebook:

Iโ€™m tiredโ€“really tiredโ€“of hearing people say and seeing them write that โ€œmy thoughts and prayers are withโ€ the victims of the latest mass shooting.ย God isnโ€™t going to fix this, and the victims donโ€™t need our prayers. They need us to fucking do something about the gun insanity in this country. Until then, as a BBC headlineย said today, massacres such as todayโ€™s will beย โ€œJust Another Day in the United States.โ€

Not surprisingly, my post generated more activity than perhaps any Facebook message I had ever written up to that time, comments ranging from mere โ€œlikesโ€ and brief sentences of agreement to push back of various sorts. One person suggested that we should pay more attention to the fact that gun violence is significantly lower in this country than it was twenty years ago; instead of wringing our hands over the violence that remains, we should study carefully what we have done right in the last twenty years and continue to do likewise (this comment set off a different, very volatile discussion that I did not participate in).

Someone else wanted to know if I believe in the Second Amendment (I do, but not interpreted as unlimited license to bear arms in whatever amount and of whatever kind one chooses). But given that the main concern energizing my post was the cavalier attitude behind offering impotent and ineffective prayers in response to random bloodshed and not a debate about gun control, what caught my attention most came from a friend whose faith perspective is of the sort in which I was raised.

  • Friend: How about this. Instead of each of us approaching this problem with our own fix, we all as Christian people pray that the light of Christ shine on this country and the world so all can see the truth for what it is. Most people donโ€™t want this. To see the truth is painful. The light of Christ exposes all things hiding in dark places including ourselves.
  • Me:ย With millions of people praying for this every day and the problem getting worse, what would you suggest? Iโ€™m a Christian and Iโ€™m also a pragmatistโ€”too many people are hiding behind the defense of โ€œweโ€™re praying for changeโ€ while never spending an ounce of effort actually trying to make it happen.
  • Friend: You missed it. Iโ€™m not talking about praying for change. Iโ€™m talking about praying that the light of Christ will shine! If Jesus is truly the light of the world, then no dark thing can be hidden from it. Everything would be seen for what it really is.
  • Me: Trueโ€”but my question still stands. The Bible says God requires us to do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with our God. Thatโ€™s a lot more than just praying for the light of Christ to shine.

This was the sort of conversation that could have gone on indefinitely with each of us talking past each other and making no connection. Fortunately, another Facebook acquaintance jumped in and said clearly what Iย shouldย have said.

  • Facebook acquaintance: God worksย throughย us, not instead of us. We are the physical manifestation of God and, while prayers do help us see and hear what must be done,ย weย are the ones who must do it. The God you are praying to is waiting for you toย beย the light you are praying to shine. How does your Jesus shine light into the world if notย by you?

This brought to mind a favorite passage from Joan Chittister, one that I arrive at frequently when I take the time to wonder what being a person of faith might actually require of us rather than mere facile verbiage.

Having made the world, having given it everything it needs to continue, having brought it to the point of abundance and possibility and dynamism, God left it for us to finish. God left it to us to be the mercy and the justice, the charity and the care, the righteousness and the commitment, all that it will take for people to bring the goodness of God to outweigh the rest.

As long as persons of faith believe that โ€œmy thoughts and prayers are with youโ€ is anย appropriate response to anything, let alone the tragedy of mass violence, we wait in vain for the coming of the kingdom of God for which many of us robotically pray in the Lordโ€™s Prayer every Sunday.

I have often wondered how it is that faith commitment so frequently over time becomes nothing more than rote phrases and habitual practices; the most obvious answer is that it happens in the same way that intelligent commitment is reduced to bumper sticker platitudes in any human endeavor. It happens because real commitment is difficult and cuts far deeper than the simplified ways we construct to make it through our days, weeks, months and years intact.

It is worthwhileย to pay close attention to the ways in which the divine, according to the Christian narrative, reportedly chose to insert itself into our human reality. It never happens in easily identifiable ways or in events so spectacular that even the densest person would have to admit that โ€œyes, thatโ€™s God at work.โ€ Instead God enters the world through the pregnancies of a woman past child-bearing years and of a virgin, in private communications that only one person is privy to,ย and ultimately through a helpless baby in a manger surrounded by animals.

This is good news, because it says that each of usโ€”no matter how insignificant and powerlessโ€”can be the vehicle of divine change. But as it was in the stories, so it is now. We have to decide to be that change. We have to say โ€œbe it unto me according to your word.โ€ This requires a lot more than thoughts and prayers.


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